Hello and Welcome to my first ever blog post on A Busy Mother’s Journey. Why I’m started blogging – ABMJ? hmmm, that’s a complex question to answer. I started this blog for a place to express myself as a mother but also as an individual and a woman.
It’s essential for parents’ to have something that is just ours. Hobbies/work are important as it’s incredibly easy to get completely wrapped up in the life of being a parent and let it completely consume us. Look at my little monkeys below, it’s hard to stop myself being completely consumed by my children and I bet there are so many parents out there that feel the exact same way I do.
I love my 3 amazing children and will always do everything to make sure they are safe, happy and well cared for. Being a mother is the best thing I’ve ever done and will do. Creating a human being! Wow. It really does blow my mind away. One of the main reasons ‘why I started blogging – ABMJ’, is I love to show them off. 🙂 What parent doesn’t?
It’s extremely rewarding being a mother!
But intensely exhausting too.
Let’s just be really honest for a moment about parenthood for a second. It’s hard! They are my little bundles of joy and I’m so proud of each of them but they are extremely hard work. I work so hard to give them a good life, to show them love and support while still worrying that I’m not doing a good enough job.
It’s so easy to lose myself in their daily routines and parenting all three of them in slightly different ways as each one is at a different stage in their life, that I totally forget I’m not just a mother that I am an individual too. I’ve seen it happen with a few clothes friends where they have made their life 100% about their children. Once they’ve left home the parent is lost.
Even though I’m probably the most talkative in our family, it will be nice to be able to talk about the highs and lows of being a Mother/Woman to other people who are living it, just like me.
I stumbled upon this blog ParentalGrit and in one of Micah’s posts he said: “we’re basically renting our children for 18 years”. that is exactly why I started blogging – ABMJ. I forgot for so many years to create a life for myself that didn’t solely involve being a full-time parent. There is going to come a point in my life (which will come faster than I realise) that I won’t be a full-time mother anymore.
Super Truth Time!
I’ve been working on my blog for over a year. I could have launched it ten months ago, but I’ve not been brave enough to take the plunge. I felt huge amounts of guilt. It was easy to lose myself in my children’s lives and devote myself fully to them and their needs only. It’s been difficult to pull myself out of that world and not feel like a terrible mother for doing so. I mostly, work on my blog while they are all at school or asleep, but, there are some times that I have to say no to them as I’ve got to finish something on AMBJ but it’s healthy for them to not have me so readily available. I hope.
Also, the fear of failure held me back. Fear of failure is such a crippling beast. Worrying about being judged or not been able to make it a success held me back. I didn’t go to school much and didn’t get my English GCSE till 2017 which I talk honestly about in ‘My Love for Writing Post‘, I was letting my past affect my future. I always feel that my writing is 100% rubbish, I think a lot of people who love to write do but I can’t keep letting that negative feeling hold me back. So, no more procrastinating. Everything is live!
A Random/Fun Fact About Me
I’m the kind of person that in my spare time (how do I have any?) I’ve learned a little sign language and then I randomly teach it to my children. Just for something different. The first things I learnt to say were “I love you” and “I want cake”. 🙂
My Secret Weapon
I’m so lucky to have this amazing man in my life. I’d never known what love and support felt like before him. We’ve been together since 2010 and he’s super supportive about all my hopes, wishes and dreams. Since starting my businesses, hobbies he’s been by my side helping. Phil has been supporting me and cheering me on. It would never have been possible without him by my side.
Why I Started Blogging – ABMJ – Getting to the point!
It’s challenging, time-consuming but fun blogging. Creating my blog is also something very different to me. I’m a website & graphic designer and do things for others. But creating my own blog where I have 100% of the input is scary but also refreshing. To have to come up with the look and feel of my blog and also to create my own content for it. Other blogs have helped me over the years, from free printable resources to insightful and helpful information.
The answer to ‘Why I Started Blogging?’ is complex and I think my career, hobbies, other blogs and being a parent have all come together to inspire me to blog myself.
I write about day to day topics for the most part. I also started Blogging – ABMJ to mainly write about some very sensitive issues that I’ve experienced. I’m not here to offend or upset anyone. I hope that you will enjoy my honest blog and hopefully, you’ll find some useful posts.
Hopefully, this will be a blog that inspires people, entertains people, and helps people. I want you to know someone else has experienced what you have gone or are going through it and you are not alone.
I love the fact that I could be connecting with people right down the road, across the country or even across the world. So, if you’ve stopped by please leave me a comment to say hello.
To find out more about my family and me, you can go a look at my About Me page or my Birth Stories page. You can connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, Blog Lovin, YouTube, LinkedIn, RSS or Mix. Drop me a message if you’d like to ask me any questions about ‘why I started blogging – ABMJ’. I think I covered a lot but if there’s anything I missed out don’t hesitate to ask me.